A 33-year-old man shares his journey of staying a virgin, citing his struggle to find genuine love as the reason behind his decision. Opening up on Reddit, he emphasizes the importance of waiting for someone he truly loves rather than engaging in casual relationships. Despite opportunities, he declined, and now, at 33, he reflects on his choice. Many men, even in their 50s, resonate with his story, sharing similar experiences before eventually finding the right partner.
In his words:
“I’m a 33-year-old male and have never had sex. I’ve had the opportunity come up a few times but it was either a FWB kind of deal or an open marriage relationship, each time I declined. I guess I want my first time to be with someone I love and for it to be special. I’ve tried dating but it never really worked out so I stopped then time just got away from me.”
Reactions from others in similar situations:
SuddenAnxieties784 said: “Your story and your thought process is exactly the same as mine. I also want the first time to be meaningful, so I never really looked for any casual stuff and only tried to look for something meaningful, but to no avail. But I must say, with each passing day my urge for some physical intimacy is increasing, be it in any form (even casual), because the loneliness is killing me man.”
Monroegoodwin477 said: “Trust me at this your age don’t tell a woman you are still chaste. Maybe when you find someone you love…women love men that have experience about something and more mature about having lust and sex.”
Imaginary_101 said: “You shouldn’t care what people think. Also your value doesn’t come from sex, you simply have value dude. We live in a misandry society that hates men.”
Keldrath said: “Unless you’re with a girl from church or something who’s super traditional and wants to wait for marriage too and is looking for that specifically, yeah unfortunately it is and it’s best to just never mention it.”
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