Media personality, Solomon Buchi, offers advice against extended dating solely for the purpose of understanding a person before marriage.
The life coach on the X platform emphasizes that a partner may undergo changes after marriage, regardless of how long the couple has been together.
Solomon Buchi
While acknowledging the desire to spend extensive time getting to know someone, Solomon Buchi suggests that faith is essential for marriage.
He argues against dating someone for an extended period to understand them completely, as marriage itself will unveil unexpected aspects of their personality.
In his words: “You can never know your partner too well before marriage. No matter how long you date, marriage will shock you. You’ll see sides to them that you never saw in your 10 years of dating. I understand trying to spend long years to know someone before marriage, but getting married requires a level of FAITH. It requires a little bit of uncertainty; after all, is life itself not uncertain? Even in marriage, your partner evolves per stage. Who they were before childbirth is different from who they’ll be after childbirth. Stop dating for too long because you want to know the person well; marriage will teach you how much you don’t know them, and why you should patiently study them. Please, just marry and face the dynamic reality of marriage. It’s a consistent learning curve.”
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